To decide what is right and what is not can be difficult. Your decision decides your actions. And the stakes are really high when it comes to a relationship. Today, we will be discussing about relationship habits.
There is no right way of handling a relationship. Anything that works is right. Do you believe this? Well, I disagree.
How do you tell that a relationship is working? What are the criteria that you ave set? For many people, a relationship is successful as long it has the labels with it.
Girlfriend and boyfriend?
Wife and husband?
Yeah, we are in a relationship!
But can a relationship be this shallow?
I think the ultimate aim of a relationship is to feel happy and loved. If these elements are missing, what is the point of staying inside the label? Many of us in order to achieve this, overlook few negative relationship habits and put them in the basket of positive relationship habits. But that doesn’t change reality. Today, we will be looking at such negative relationship habits that we consider positive.
1. Calling your partner your everything
When you say that your partner is your everything, you are basically implying that you are hollow. Your partner is a part of your world and not your entire world.
When you enter a relationship, you bring your individuality on the table. And when you call your partner your everything, in a true sense, you are left with nothing.
And no, calling your partner your everything is not cute. It is scary.
2. A constant need for communication
Without communication, things will fall apart. In fact, communication is the key.
But constant communication???
Well, it’s weird!
A constant need for communication shows nothing but full dependency on your partner. And we have all worked hard to be independent, haven’t we?
Give your partner a space to breathe else pretty soon, everything will become suffocating.
3. Asking your partner to fix you
Your emotional well being is your responsibility and not that of your partner.
If you are having emotional issues, you need to fix it yourself.
If you cannot afford to take care of yourself, how can you expect your partner to take care of you?
Understand that there is a huge difference between “being emotionally supportive” and “being emotionally obligated” to your partner. The former is healthy and the later is very dangerous.
4. Doing everything together
Do you really want this much of co-dependency? You have your own life, right?
5. Sugarcoating everything
If you cannot tell your partner a blunt truth or something that you really want to say, then a lot has to be done in your relationship.
Presenting everything in layers of sugar can be exhausting and very unhealthy. I am not asking you to be rude. Be nice but say the stuff that you really want to say without plenty of filters.
Give them a black and white picture instead of going for grey.
Last and perhaps the most important one is to stretch a relationship. Staying in a relationship even when everything is going downhill is not an achievement. No one is going to reward you for that. The only thing that is in store if you really have to stretch a relationship is suffering.